I'm gasping for the air to fill my lungs with everything I've lost*
Lana brought home a homework assignment last night and I am just beside myself as to how to deal with it.
Evidently, her kindergarten class is talking about heredity - and Lana is supposed to fill out a chart.
The chart has a list of traits down one side and a list of relatives across the top. The first item says, "I have ____________ hair like my" and she is supposed to write in her hair color and then she is supposed to check off the relatives (mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, brother) who also have the same hair color.
The chart goes through eye color, skin tone, tallness/shortness, "I can/cannot roll my tongue like my" - you get the picture.
It's like an adoptive parent's NIGHTMARE homework assignment. (It's right up there with the "Bring in several photographs of you as an infant" and "have your parents describe the day you were born" assignments which we have also dealt with this year.)
I have NO CLUE what to do...
I mean, the truth is that Lana and my mom have the same color hair, and that Lana and Gabriel have the same color eyes,** but those things are coincidental and not related to heredity.
Any thoughts on how to approach this? Anyone been there/done that?
There are times when it hits me really hard, the weight of the knowledge of all of the things I do not know, can never know, about this child I love so much.
*Snow Patrol, It's Beginning to Get to Me
**Against all odds, Gabriel, the child of two green eyed parents, has dark, dark chocolate brown eyes. While this is statistically unlikely, it is not impossible. And seriously, if Gabe isn't the child of two green eyed parents, he is the child of an alien invasion.***
***After my surgery last week, the doctor came out to speak to my husband, and asked my husband about what previous surgery I had had laproscopically, as there was another scar in my belly button, and he (my doctor) had no record of it. PEOPLE! I HAVE NEVER HAD ANY OTHER SURGERY. AND MY KID HAS BROWN EYES. So I am starting to worry that there may be something to that alien invasion possibility...****
****Yes, I am still hopped up on a lot of drugs